Christian Love...does it exist today?

I'm not here attacking "Christian Love" or saying its not obtainable, or even truely shown, by some.
But feel, in general, christians preach this doctrine but have real difficulties in living it. I often have to observe that there is as much love in a pub (bar) as is found in the church.

We study the subject and agree we christians should be more loving than others. Sadly we like to show love while holding to the high ground. By this I mean, to be seen as loving, reasonable, christians. We find it hard, to seek to show love, as failures in this love.

Of course 1 Corinthians chapter 13 is the great passage on christian love. Honestly read and digested it shows christianity of today as sadly laking.

We have fellowship, yes, but often not based on true love.

     1. Theological Love.
         Here we have a love and respect for those in our theological grouping, thinking, preference. But those who dont think as we do are outside this love type. The brother is "sound" or "is in error".

     2. Evangelism Love.
         This can be towards a group who share a mission. "We are in it together" sort of thing. But away from the commen aim/task we have little in commen.

I have known people not wanting to be in contact when I have, seemingly, moved from a theological position that they prefer. I guess love never really existed there?

I have known people, who love to be around you when you are the flavour of the month. Who stear clear if you fall from favour.

If I do nothing else in this post, I want to challenge us in reguards to true christian love in the evengelical community? What is "True christian love?", "Are we seeing it?" "Are we showing it?"
The love Bible speaks of it, sacrificial, humbling, honest, all consuming. It it the Feet Washing love, the love that exchanges Heaven for the cross. It is a love that lays down its life for a none deserving other.

I think I have said enough for the present, let others comment, add their thinking.